It seems that right before a lot of people throw in the towel, the WA decides that they want to work on things.
Stew,
Quick thought on this, not sure if it's right, but it feels right. It's not quite throwing in the towel it's more of really finally understanding a few things about yourself: 1. I'm really gonna be OK, no matter what happens 2. This M might end (see 1) 3. While I have flaws, I have a lot to offer in my next R (with present S or someone else) (again, see 1) 4. I've done the best that I could to save this R. The door is open, but I'm living my life (see 1)
To me, it's almost like when you really realize for the first time what a doofas/ass/control freak/inconsiderate/insert your flaw here person you were in your M and how that got you to a failed R. But, instead of "Jesus, I was a freaking idiot" it's "OK, I made some mistakes, but I've corrected/am correcting them and I'm going to have a good life."
That make sense to either of you?
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
