Gwen, I was VERY direct with my H numerous times too and he swore black and blue that he wasn't doing anything, even when I had direct proof that I put right in his face. What I am saying here is just because you ask him these things and he says he isn't doing it, doesn't mean he isn't. I have always relied on my gut feeling and to this day, it hasn't proved me wrong. All the times I called H on something and he said it wasn't true, I proven him wrong - EVERY SINGLE TIME!!

Like OT said - you have to be more direct with him, that's exactly what I did and it is slowly but surely turning around - although we still have a long, long way to go

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)