I think that to a point she is still upset, but I also think that she has put an angry face on things to justify having an affair, leaving and divorcing.
You are probably right. You are also in a tough situation for contacting as you already know. The only thing you really can do is move on and make a happier life for yourself and hopefully she will contact you down the road.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”