Sue is right. Take the first step and go to individual therapy. Do all you can to be reassuring and remorseful. An indicator of a successful reconciliation after an affair is the amount of remorse the WS shows while the LBS "acts crazy".
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."