Mojo, and Hap Maybe what you are trying to convey is that women lose respect for men who offer validation in response to such behavior instead of recognizing it as a sign of arousal or desire.
When you wear your low rider jeans and pink t-shirt that provides more color then coverage, and Victoria secrets bra that turns your mammaries into man killers, when you have your warpaint and your hair pouffed, are you signalling arousal in a general advertisement, or are you seeking validation? When you go to meet up with NG, do you wear you little black dress, or do you wear your coveralls, so he can appreciate you for you pilgrim soul? And when freezer isle guy 'validated you' and signalled his arousal was it succesful? I appreciate you clarifing though. What you said above is very accurate. How about if I just grunt in your general direction and you translate what I mean. You do good.
It's more validating if a man conveys "Seeing you in that dress really turns me on." but it's more sexy if a man comprehends "Wearing that dress must really turn you on.". Of course, the communication must go both ways.
Thats not comprehension thats mind reading. Gay guys would have no problem comprehending that, and would verbally demonstrate there comprehension. gay guy: Wooo GGGIRRL. You are OOOONNNNN fire TTOOonight. These guys dont even know whats coming for em. A man is going verbalize what HE, is feeling, about seeing your dress, He is not going to verbalize what you are feeling, in the dress.
3 in 50? might. 1 or 2 will be gay. When its obvious a woman has gotten all gussied up, giving her a lingering lascivious look and commenting 'I suppose you think you are going to get lucky, just because you got all dressed up for me.' would demonstrate he is reading her mind. 40 in 50 will think ' I wanna fcck that.' and say. 'wow. you look so hot.' 7 in 50 will think 'she is a slut' and say, ' lets go back to my place. I wanna show you my pet snake. ' The 7 are going to have a lot better chance then the 40, not because she is a slut, but because he is being straghtforward, made her laugh, and she assumes-- read her mind. So if you are not a mind reader, tell you Wife, when she looks good, 'lets go upstairs. I want to show you my pet snake.' Its better then saying ohhhh....' can we have sex?' or... 'will you have sex with me', like its some sort of gift she gives you, instead of something fun for the both of you.
Yes! because it displays more empathy on the part of the man, he is putting himself in your shoes - or dress! And feeling how sexy it must make you feel. Thats not empathy, thats mind reading. But thank you for telling us what you want to receive. Time to go enroll in those telepathy classes. The only way it could be empathy is if he dressed up in your clothes and went out and received cat calls and whistles. He would then have to feel sexually aroused by that, for it to allow him empathy. If it made him feel demeaned or gay, he would still not be capable of empathy. There is no part of radical honesty that includes mind reading.
If I dress up in lingerie it makes me feel horny, I don't do it to make H feel horny, although I guess he thinks I do it for him. Thank you. You guess?
Maybe with this, Cemar will come to realize his wife didnt blow him while driving down the freeway at the beginning of the R, for him. She did it for her own selfish reasons. If a woman feels sexy, she will be able to make herself feel sexier. If she doesnt feel sexy... she may put it on, but it doesnt come across the same way. At all.
What I feel like I want to do is walk around steaming hot and horny to such an extent that H thinks "If I don't jump her someone else will".
More mind reading and not biologically sensible. Thats a womans thought process. You cant jump a female to prevent someone else from coming after. Being first is line is no assurance. OM will still be milling around waiting, and she will just be hotter after you jump her, while the man will be depleted afterwards.
If someone else jumped my woman, without her permission, I wouldnt feel guilty for not jumping her first. What I would feel would have nothing to do with, or toward her. If its with her permission, then he didnt jump her. Regardless of whatever fantasy they are playing.
EDIT What I feel like I want to do is walk around steaming hot and horny to such an extent that H thinks "If I don't jump her someone else will".
Jealousy does not cause arousal in men. It nearly always does in women becasue its just another strong emotion, but in men the strong emotion it causes leads to shutdown, withdrawal, or anger. the anger can be expressed at the OM or at the woman. or both. This is a very dangerous and caustic game.
You do good. 