I can hear some woman right now thinking, "if he doesn't O, he doesn't love very much or she isn't exciting enough for him!
BF, I would think you not O'ing would cause a woman some problems? I hear women saying they get a great deal of satisfaction making, helping, or being part of the process in the guy cumming. It's the, she gets hot because he is hot factor.
Hi Lou. That is some excellant hearing you have there. I dont get a chance to read here much, didnt mean to ignore your questions.
If she thinks I dont love her, well I didnt tell her I did, nor do I act or otherwise communicate I do, so thats a pretty good assumption. I remember this movie where the guy faked it and then was running around going to all this effort to keep up the lie. It was funny but a waste of energy. The reason I dont, or choose not to O has a number of reasons, but the one I was talking- to Hap about- was simply cause/effect of frequency.
As for my not O'ing causing a woman problems??? Inability to become pregnant comes to mind. I suppose she could view that as a problem. LOL.
What kind of REAL problems would it cause them?
When they dont O, I dont worry about it, so I wouldnt expect them to worry about mine. I hear women saying they get a great deal of satisfaction making, helping, or being part of the process in the guy cumming.
Ill let Hap answer that... 1. She can abdicate all responsibility and relax 2. She likes to be with a man that knows what he wants and knows how to get it [I guess her part of the process is being willing/receptive] 3. She likes to feel like the guy is stronger than her 4. Risk/vulnerability. Submitting to him doing whatever he wants with her is very vulnerable and for this reason VERY sexy. It's all about really trusting the guy.
Ive heard women say that too Lou, but my education says what Hap said works better. So she may try on occasion,(rarely) and Ill let her for a little bit, then I flip her. Besides I know what I like. She doesnt.
Back to frequency. If a man only wants/needs to O 3x a week, he can still be 'a considerate and gracious' lover by having sex 6x a week. When x would go thru a HD phase, there is no way I would be able to O every time. If you do her with certain techniques, she isnt even going to notice if you did or not, especially with a condom. If she thinks she is not exciting enough, thats her issue, and most likely going to be self fullfilling. Im pretty sensitive to that, I fell for it once, I dont try bolstering women's self esteem anymore. NMJ. Its called SELF esteem for a reason. There is no reward in trying to give something, that should come from inside.
Lou, Im a big fan of PBTS, but being O driven is obviously masculine issue. It is also completely understandable when you are starving. Several women have mentioned losing the desire, when the frequency doesnt stay high/consistant. Can't have that. Ill do what I need to, to prevent that. It may look like hardwork, but its purely for selfish reasons.
