OK, I am getting a little better at recognizing my feelings. The alone feeling feels like an emptiness inside my ribcage, for example. Not sure what to do with these feelings really. I know keeping them bottled up wlll lead to resentment and will eventually cause me to implode.
This is excellent!
But remember, just because you have a feeling does not mean that you have to act on it.
Part of recognizing your feelings and where you are feeling is the act of NOT bottling them up. In the time that it takes you to say to yourself... "I'm feeling... lonely... lonely is occurring inside my rib cage..." is you actually honoring the feeling.
Now you get to make a decision, independently of the feeling, on what actions you will now take, or not take. Instead of just spewing all that feeling on Mrs. GGB, you can go for a walk, you can go write about your feelings in a journal... lots of things. I'm sure you'll find that once you have identified an emotion, and where it is located, it takes about 10 minutes for it's intensity to subside. That's what is called allowing the emotion to flow through you.
It does not solve issues of what may be causing your 'alone' feelings, but the feeling itself doesn't get to prompt any action or reaction, if you choose not to allow it. I can talk a little bit more about this later... but the point is... you don't 'stuff' the alone feeling and 'pretend' your happy, just because Mrs. GGB can't handle it, and you don't 'spew' your emotions on the world just because YOU can't handle them.
I gotta scram right now, but I kind of went through this yesterday with my ex. I'll post more later.
