I agree with your words, and it's exactly how I feel in my sitch, that if the whole sitch had NOT happened, we would not be where we are today which is a much better place. Just go w/ the flow, enjoy each day and just love your W and everything will fall into place. I truly didn't know what I was missing until I was "forced" to see what had gone wrong in my M.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10