Still Tryin's new thread 2

[NikB]

Wow ST, sounds like things are going well overall! Glad to hear it.

I'm still trying to put my finger on the "Wow couple" thing too. It wasn't physical contact though... it was more just the aura that they had, like two very secure, comfortable, confident people who came together. It's soo hard to explain.

But, it probably is good for your kids to see hugs and kisses, too (not to mention kinda nice for you and H!). Maybe try once in awhile and see what happens.

Woo hoo, Vegas!! I hope you have a wonderful time. I'm with you on the shorts thing. I finally found some I liked but it took me forever, and I paid way too much for them just because I was so excited that they fit! One thought for you on the ones that fit everywhere but the waist is you could get them altered. I have a friend who has a very similar figure, it sounds like, and she finally started doing that. It's a little more expensive but she says it's worth it for clothes that are both stylish and actually fit!

Wow, those comments about "if I was doing something.." must've hurt. I can't imagine getting back to a place in my M where they WOULDN'T hurt. Hope you were able to get past it quick, though.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Nikki....actually getting past it was pretty easy. We were both joking during that convo, but when he said that it was like brief moment into the past since he said the exact thing last year, or actually I think he may have said it before the whole A, I think it was really 2 years ago, but I can't remember, and he didn't disagree with me when I said it. I wish I had a better brain. I guess if I DID have a better memory, it'd probably get the best of me knowing how much I try to analyze everything.


about the altering, it always scares me to do something like that, and I can't imagine it fitting the way I want it to. I guess I just have to try it and see.

I can't remember if I said this or not, but the other day I got really disappointed. Of course the very next day I had my monthly visitor (sorry guys) and I don't know why this always comes as a surprise, it happens every single month. Anyways, I got a "rejection" on the monavie from someone who helped me thru last year and he was really trying to hang up the phone towards the end, but I did hear a beep so maybe there was another call. anyways, I totally took it personal and was totally down, so I told s3 we're going swimming. we tried to go the day before but he wouldn't eat his lunch. So that day he ate his lunch and we headed off, but the pool was closed on Wednesday, the only day it's closed! So then I end up at this appt where we used to live and I got in there and there's no one cept an old guy and his grandkids. Well, God sure placed me at that pool because he came over later and we're talking and I look at his hat and it says MONAVIE! is that crazy? so we talked alot and I definitely got a boost from it. so cool.

anyways, gotta cook. Gonna also record some music tomorrow! very excited. wish me luck!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I just got back from recording some songs. We did about 10 of them. boy, that was tiring! Hopefully they don't all suck, but I think most of them came out okay. It was taking so long that I didn't even want to listen to them, but just go to the next one just to get done faster.

The guy that recorded me is going thru his own M crisis. It was weird though because if he had never told me before I would have never noticed. They seemed like a normal couple together, but I guess "behind the doors" there is no more intimacy then the peck I saw and it's been like that for a whole year and she pretty much wanted out but is still trying to work on it. So he is still very lucky. I, of course, have offered a lot of advice. They are going to counseling though but I think he's still doing a lot of R talk outside of that.

anyways, I'm tired! hope my music comes out good enough to share it with you all!

[Confident_Me]

Hello (((((ST)))))


Just wanted you thank you for keeping an eye on me & my thread - sorry I have not been visiting your that much lately

I have made 2x Rejoice Marriage Minitry CD's now & guess what - I have your recording of Wonderful, Merciful at the beggining of each CD

I can't wait to hear your new recordings & they better be up to par (hehehehe) - yeah, just kidding, I know they'll be great

Ok, so I wait in anticipation, but whilst we do - here's another message from Kim (a stander):

YOU DO THE POSSIBLE -

"If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place." 2 Chronicles 7:14-15



How many of us are in God's waiting room right now? We've repented of our sins, we've received our promises, and we've placed our faith and hope in His Word. We've made our apologies and changed our lives.

Why are we still in the waiting room?

How many of us are still sitting in neutral; having enough of God to get us through, but not enough of God to claim a victory?

God has some instruction for us - you do the possible; I'll do the impossible.

We often like to use the word "but" as we walk this narrow road. I believe what God has promised me, but I don't really think it will happen for me. I want to walk by faith, but the circumstances have gone from bad to worse. I know the battle is the Lord's, but I can't let him treat the children like that. I believe in the power of prayer, but I don't think it has made any difference.

In Luke 9, we read one of the accounts of Jesus feeding thousands with only five loaves of bread and two fishes.

"Late in the afternoon the Twelve came to him and said, "Send the crowd away so they can go to the surrounding villages and countryside and find food and lodging, because we are in a remote place here." He replied, "You give them something to eat." Luke 9:12-13


The disciples knew of God's miracle working power. They had seen it when He calmed a raging storm and healed a demon-possessed man. They had seen it when He raised Jairus' daughter from the dead and cured a woman who had been sick for 12 years. They knew He could do the impossible.

What does Jesus tell them? "YOU give them something to eat."

In other words, you do the possible, I'll do the impossible.


And what did the disciples answer him in the rest of verse 13?

"They answered, "We have only five loaves of bread and two fish - unless we go and buy food for all this crowd." Their answer was a "but" - but we only have a little bread and fish. How can we feed this many with that little?

How quickly they had forgotten the power of the One they served.


We find another illustration in John 5 with the story of the invalid at the healing pool. Jesus asked the man an unusual question in verse 6. "When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, 'Do you want to get well?'"

The invalid answered Him, "Yes - .but." "Sir," the invalid replied, "I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me." John 5:7


In other words, "I want to get well but... there are so many circumstances that are working against me."

Is Jesus asking us the same thing? Do you want to get well?

And are you going to answer as the invalid did? "Yes...but."



We need to throw out the negative use of the word "but" in our stands.

I believe what God has promised me. Period.
I will walk by faith. Period.
The battle is the Lord's. Period.
I believe in the power of prayer. Period.

"Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:3-4



We are often tempted to use God for our own purposes. We want Him to make some changes in our lives and circumstances. But it isn't God who must change, it's us. We need to tap into the power of what He offers and not let circumstances or passage of time change our words. We can't surrender just a piece and expect to get the whole reward. We can't sit in the waiting room expecting a miracle if we don't do our part to receive it. We can't expect Him to do the impossible, if we don’t do the possible.

What is the "possible" that God is asking us to do?

He's asking us to believe and not doubt.


"But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind." James 1:6



He asking us to be still and let Him fight for us.

"The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still." Exodus 14:13



He's asking us to commit our way to Him.

"Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." Proverbs 16:3



He's asking us to pray.

"The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5:16b



He's asking us to stand firm in our faith.

"If you do not stand firm in your faith, you will not stand at all." Isaiah 7:9b



He's asking us to forgive.

"But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Matthew 6:15



He is asking us to follow where He leads.

"Then Jesus said to his disciples, 'If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.'" Matthew 16:24



God promises us open doors, but we are the ones who have to walk through them. He promises to light or way, but we are the ones who must walk. He promises to guide our steps, but we are the ones who must follow. To claim God's promises for ourselves and those we pray for, we have to do our part. We need to do the possible so He can do the impossible.

"Give us aid against the enemy, for the help of man is worthless. With God we will gain the victory, and he will trample down our enemies." Psalm 108:12-13


God bless,
Kim, Standing in Nebraska

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Wow CM... that's really cool. I'm not so sure that MY songs will be too great. It's just me and the keyboard so we'll see how they turned out. We just did it as a demo so I could give it to instrumentalists to see what they could come up with. Plus, my music is a little different. I like the alternative/pop/rock sound, so I'm hoping with drums and bass and guitar it can have that kind of sound.

Thanks for checking in on me, and don't worry about not doing it sometimes, I know your pretty busy with all your dancing and stuff!

[NikB]

Hey ST, I hadn't been here in a bit to see your exciting news. Sorry I'm late to the party but wow, CONGRATS on recording your songs. That is so cool!!!

I bet they turned out great, based on your other recording that I heard.

[SuperDad]

ST,
A while ago, on Puddle's thread, you asked:

um, SD, why are you not wanting her to be your friend? You are working on saving your M right?
I understand the hurt from having a WAS having an affair, but if DBing to save your M, you can't refrain from becoming friends

I will be friendly to her, but as long as she is breaking her marriage vows, along with a few other commandments, and shutting me out of the important details of her life, I will not be her friend.

How many friends do you have who cheat on you, shut you out from the important details of their lives, take, take, take and don't give anything back. Yup, I thought so...NONE! She will have to do many 180s before I would call her my friend.

I do not view this as outside of DBing, just the ultimate detachment.

SD

[S.T. _I Made It!]

SD... actually my H was for half of last year. Ya, I know that seems weird, but I'm assuming your a christian since you brought up the commandments, so I say this, Jesus tells us if someone takes your coat, give him your tunic also... you know, turn the other cheek. Love your enemy.

Luke 6:27
But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also.......If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that....But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back...."


Now using the word "friend" could have some different meanings. Now you can't make her be your friend, but you can still continue to show love and compassion in a detached way. Of course you don't need to let her use you.

So how do you manage to get "closer" to your W? Will you only do that if she decides to cut off contact with OM? Are you only just being cordial to her and letting her initiate all contact?

You don't really have to answer all my ?s if you don't want to. Just trying to understand exactly where you stand.

I know it's a very hard thing to do to be nice to someone who seems to be trying to ruin your life. But that's where the compassion comes in, because we have to realize how much hurt there must have been in their life for them to have allowed themselves to fall temptation to an A.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Hey Nikki,

thanks! I really hope it turns out okay. I'm sure I'll have to post it on myspace or somewhere so I can at least get some comments, at least from you guys! I'm sure my music won't be everyones favorite type of music, but that's why we're all different!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

One more week till our Vegas trip! Hope it's really fun. I'm trying to think when our last trip by ourselves was, and I can't. I'm really lucky that my mom doesn't have a 9-5 job and she can watch the kids.

Does anyone know of any cool/fun hang outs in Vegas? I'm gonna check out that lava thing Nikki mentioned. H even said we would go see that which is very cool that he really listened to me and I only mentioned it once.

okay, very tired, it's midnight... yikes! Good night everyone,