According to your rules, Mo, all I have to do to solve this, is to start the courtship dance again, or decide that it really isn't worth my time because "familiarity and comfort has destroyed the libido thrill of the chase or the slow-build up of resentment has killed emotional connection."
Actually, if you decide that familiarity and comfort has destroyed the libido thrill of the chase you can add excitement to the relationship and you know there are actions you can take to restore emotional connection.
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The problems right now lie solely with me. What do I want. Where do I want to go. Do I want to continue investing in this R. Does it have to deepen. Can it just stay the way it is. What is really bugging me. If I am losing initial chemical bath attraction, can I get it back or develop a synthetic version.
Since it is a given that chemical bath attraction will come and go in a LTR, it is radically important to ask yourself questions like this. One question in the book which I found interesting was "Would you want to have lunch with this man if he was a woman?" Forget about all the male/female attraction stuff for a minute and figure out if you truly like the person.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
