how old are kids? If they are teenagers, maybe it would be a good idea to discuss something because they're not stupid, they're gonna sense something is wrong. If they're much younger, then I say hold off until you guys figure what in the world your doing. okay, your H figures out that.

ya, they can come up with some weird comments huh. I remember my H saying "I'm trying to be your friend"...whatever!

if your H ever says again that he thinks your being fake, you can always say, "I guess it took a horrible experience to wake me up to the person I really want to be and I am happy about that, no matter how hard this is"

Of course actions do speak louder than words, so consistency is best on that. They usually always think it's just all a show to try to win them back and eventually you'll quit. But see, when you make these changes for yourself, it's for good, and they WILL see that eventually.

I'm really glad you told him you wanted all contact to be out of the house. I think that is a boundary... why wouldn't it be? And DUH that is not unreasonable... obviously he was just being defensive at first and then later realized how retarded he was. ;\)

hey, those knots in your stomach are just bound to occur, it's totally normal, but time will allow them to pass. As you get stronger in yourself, it will get better.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."