Havn't been here for awhile, update.

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Hi Cadesmom and LWB;

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I feel very strongly that I will never go back to taking it for granted. Yes, I miss my old wife, yes I continue to be angry about what she has put us all through, but at the same time I am excited about what can be in the future. We have talked at length about what we have been through and I think we both see it as what "needed" to happen for both of us to get to a place where we really wanted to find a different relationship together.

Patience; I struggle with it every day, and yet as I reflect on the last 8 months, just about every time I was convinced of something, I found out I was wrong. When all of this began, I thought all this "do it for yourself" stuff was BS, I wanted a system, a plan. The reality is that we simply can't know what another is thinking and feeling unless they decide to share it with us. Everything else is at best a guess. The card my wife gave me for our anniversary talked about where we came from and where we are going. She wrote that "if you had asked me 2,3,4,5,or 6 months ago if we would be here together tonight, I would have said no way, and yet here we are."

We have a tradition of putting one of those glow in the dark stars on our bedroom ceiling every year on our anniversary, I put the 19th one up months ago, at the same time my wife would have told anyone that we were done, over, through, and yet we found our way to the same place at the same time.

It is a great place to be!