Talked to W after work. She told me she had applied for a subsidized apt., but, her application was turned down do to having bad credit. She is trying her best to get a place of her own, but she is not having any luck. I feel bad for her.
We had dinner together tonight and at dinner I ask her what she thought about us looking at getting a place together. I told her I thought it might be a good idea. I said "I know you want to be out on your own, but you are not having any luck finding a place. And also I would love the help at night w/son and he misses you." She did not respond, so I left it alone for the time being.
As we drove her home, I said to her "So you do not have any comment?" She said, kind of in an angry voice. "I don't know. I will have to think about it." I said, "No pressure or strings attached. Take all the time you need." I continued. "I do not want you to think that I am trying to take advantage of your living situation, just to get you back under the same roof as me. That is not my intentions. I just know it is going to be hard for you to get your own place." She responded angrily "We'll, with what I make now and how things are going, I will never be able to get my own place." I replied "I understand and I feel really bad that that is what you are faced with. I have a lot of reservations about us living together again. I have thought about it a lot and I don't know if it is something I really want. I do not want us to end up back in the same living conditions we were in. If I wanted that I never would have pushed for us to get separated. We would still be living in the same situation today. I just think it may be good for us to share housing expenses and care of (son) together, until we can both get back onto our feet." She said nothing and we dropped her of at her house.
It seems evident she wants to be on her own and I can respect that.
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