Dave, Been following this off and on the last day, just kind of skimmed it. Just my 2 cents. Odds are you don't move out, you get divorced. You move out, you got a chance. In a perfect world, no moving out not a good thing. However, this is a quote from my wife:
Now that I know you're moving out, I can feel all of the pressure just leaving me.
Now, I'm in a bit of a different situation than you, potential OM, filing a mediated D agreement that will lead to D in a year, but if I had A) shut up earlier or B) moved out for a while earlier, maybe that pressure would have left earlier, she would have been more relaxed, I would have been more relaxed and I might be happily married.
FWIW, I don't think you're making a bad decision, but the best decision from among a few poor alternatives
Head up,
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
