Well Dom, You have your opinion. Maybe you are right, and maybe not. The DB coach didn't suggest it. She just said that the S could jump start our marriage after I told her that's what is happening. Me being stubborn and unreasonable to her will not save this M. I've done that enough in the past years. I always acted like I know better even when I don't. I'm stubborn and opinionated. That's something I'm working on.
Why do I need to go find myself? Cuz I lost it over the years. I'm no longer the person I used to be. I lost all my friends. I no longer do things fun for myself. I have no life. Being on my own give me a chance to do something for myself for once. Actually force me to.
Anyways Dom, I appreciate your opinion. I don't necessary agree with all of them. I will think on it. Even though I really shouldn't cuz then it gets me too focused on the S and my R and then it makes me down.
And really, why can't I be the exception? It is possible. Maybe I will be and maybe I won't. But I certainly do not want her to start filing for D just cuz I refuse to give her space by moving out. You have to remember, she was ready to do that on 8/11. Of course it's not because I agree with the S that she changed her mind. It was my sincere apologies.
Well, when she gets back I'll think about discussing it with her. I will have to really think about this. I will be talking to a local BT based counselor on Mon. I'll get some additional opinions.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
