Trudging up hill

[ediemarie]

Hi Sara -
thanks for responding. I was able to bring this up tonight over dinner...yikes...

I just simply asked if he had given any thought to school this fall. The following conversation ensued:
H: well, i don't have a choice. I have to quit.
M: have you thought about when or how you're going to do that?
H: well, I was thinking of just not showing up.
M: (***GASP*** while not an audible gasp, I'm sure the look on my face said it all) Well, don't you think you should at least call?
H: Yeah, that's probably what I will do
M: I know quitting isn't easy, I mean this is a really difficult thing to do, is there anyway you could work it out where you work there and not see her at all? Is it even possible?
H: No, I don't think it is possible for me to be in close proximity to her at all. That just wouldn't work at all, in any way for any one of us.
M: Oh. (H looks really uncomfortable so I continue.) I know this is difficult, thanks for talking to me about it. I don't want to dwell on it, I was just curious about your thoughts...(and then I changed the topic to how long it was taking for us to get our food - we were out at a restaurant)

It was quick, relatively painless, and we (***I***)were able to move past the conversation with some ease. That in itself is an accomplishment.

I'm trying to let him own this decision and not mother him. I don't know how I'm doing overall, but I know I'm doing better than I was in the past. I'm trying to accept the idea of him not quitting. He still seems pretty set on quitting, and I hope our conversation tonight didn't give him "permission" to not quit, there are just so many factors to consider...only time will tell...