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[RedHeadWife]

I'm glad to hear you are at this turning point. Just remember to be patient and loving with her. The trust and feelings about the A will take time to subside, but they will diminish as time passes and she proves worthy of your trust again.

You need to allow yourself time to grieve the "Old M" though, even though you say you don't want it back. Also, you will grieve the fact that your W is now seemingly a different person in your eyes after what she has put your family through in the whole sitch.

With all of that being said though, it is all doable. The resentment and all of the negativity will fade in time -- it is something you need to work on daily. Just go w/ the flow, go w/ the positives and just be patient.