You can go completely Tyler Durden if you want to, just remember that you will never fully get rid of Jack.
I'm no one to talk. I mean, hell, it seems like I'm having as much trouble with my sitch as anyone. But, since I am not in your sitch, please allow me to tell you how to do it better:
Try making a game out of it. Try to intentionally divide yourself into the private, hidden man that wants his wife to get her $#/+ together, and the public, visible guy that is going to cover his &$$ and get what's coming to him. Never let the two meet, and always remember which one is really you.
It's virtually impossible, I know. Yet, if you can pull it off, it may just work.
Anyway, you gotta be off your nut to take any advice from me.
Wait a minute. If that's the case, why won't my W listen?