CadesMom, Thanks for putting things in perspective. I don't think I ever posted to you either, but I do try to keep up on your sitch. I know you have been through a lot. Thanks for helping me out. Just to clarify, the other affair was a one-night stand. He met this OW at the same place...that is why I have mentioned several times that this was a one-night stand gone wrong. The guys that he went with were much older, unhappily married, and known to cheat on their wives, I didn't think I had anything to worry about...we were happily married and I was young and beautiful. Live and learn. I honestly don't believe he intended this to be any more until OW continued to pursue him. Not to downplay a one-night stand in any means it is still cheating. However, I believe the emotional part of affair is harder to deal with and that is why he went "crazy" this time. This whole thing may be a blessing in disguise. If this wouldn't have happened, he might have continued to cheat on with me without my knowledge for years.
C2H, Thanks for responding again. I actually already receive that email. I signed up for it months ago when we were talking about getting divorced. Then, he sort of had a time when he was considering coming back, so I didn't read them on a daily basis. I will start and I will look into the books that they recommend.
