Hummmm.... you say your relationship has always been plagued with problems. You are both young, together 4 years and married 1.... any kids? If you don't have kids and can logically and emotionlessly see that there have always been problems... well. I think you might want to list (1) why you'd want to stay, (2) why you'd want to leave. Perhaps this relationship was a mistake in the first place? I think I'd try to figure out why I married someone who I had always had a rocky relationship in the first place.... There may be some personal growth you need to do before getting involved in another relationship so you are able to make a healthier choise the next time around. Good luck to you!
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