Oh - don't get me wrong. We have had some rip-roaring fights over sex. I hate to admit it, but when really upset, I am a pretty good yeller when my buttons are pushed. I have even told him that I am thinking of going elsewhere... but he isn't too phased, and has (when I've really pushed his buttons) told me, "whatever - just get off my back already".

In the early, early (honeymoon phase 14 years ago) days, we had sex almost every day. But it dwindled after I got pregnant (and aborted due to pressure from him and my family since we were pretty young) - burnt once, twice shy (kwim?). But it was still a couple times a week. We got married 7 years ago and had great sex trying to get pregnant (which is why we got married, to answer your q heywyre). But as soon as I got pregnant, it dropped back to approx. 1/wk. (begrudgingly during my pregnancy altogether).

He's always been reserved - was a virgin till 19, only had a handful of partners before me. Prefers lights off, will cover his ass with his hands walking from the bed to the backroom afterwards... not much into extended foreplay (certainly not into oral - even me just offering) or me-on-top position.

He has said, when confronted, that he wants to be able to "be a man/hunter" but that I don't allow him the opportunity to pursue me. He doesn't like it when I ask for anything directly (in AND out of the bedroom) and will intentionally withhold just because I DID ask. But, I can't do the "damsel in distress" routine for more than a couple days without sex materializing, and then I become a total bitch/nag (tho I try hard to curb the inclination).

Now, he's not a complete [censored], as I am still in this relationship for so long. And the only thing we really fight about is his lack of putting out. But I'm in my sexual prime, and I hate climbing the walls in hormonal angst!! aaaarrrggg!!!

Last edited by loonyqt; 08/24/07 12:52 AM.
36 y/o HD in committed monogomous relationship for 15 years (at least on my end, assumed on his as well)
2 children, 6.5 dd & 5 ds