"Friend" called. I told him that "I don't think it's a very good idea that we talk because I'm trying to work on my marriage". When I spoke to him last year when H was deployed I told him a bit about what was going on w/H and his EA. Well, he didn't waste anytime throwing it up in my face.
He said he knew my H didn't want us to talk and "how dare he tell you not to talk to me when he was F%$%ing that B$#%^ in Cuba last year". I told him that I didn't think H was unfaithful in that way ever, and that it was just an emotional affair that we have gotten past. He said "I don't care what he says, there's no way he treated you like that and didn't screw her". So, he ended up yelling at me, telling me he couldn't believe I was going to let H dictate who I could be friends with, etc. He said he felt like my kids were his family, he's got their pics. up on his fridge, he's never met them in person. He said that this happens all the time to him when he has friends that are girls. He said their boyfriends or husbands don't want him to be friends with them, and "I can't help if your husband is so F'ing insecure that he can't handle you being friends with me". I told him my H was not insecure, I'm trying to work on my marriage and I was going to do what my H wanted me to do just as he did what I wanted him to do to save our marriage. Nothing is more important. So, he hung up on me after saying "well, I called, if you don't call me, or see me when you get back to the east coast, so be it".
Well, I feel ok about losing the friendship because he obviously doesn't support my marriage. But now, after hearing a mans point of view about my H's EA, I'm thinking that maybe it was a PA, even though I've let it go and I truly believed my H that it wasn't a PA. UGH. I'm so upset right now.
