I will post on other threads tonight. I haven't had time to catch up on anyone's sitch, let alone post much on mine.
Thingsa are going well. Kids are getting better, thank goodness. H and I are getting along great, although my mind still plays some games. I still ask him sometimes if he's still happy, or still in love with me. I guess things go so well sometimes that I find it hard to believe how horrible it was a couple of months ago, so I ask him questions so that he can calm my fears. Gotta stop that.
Today H got an email from EA from last year while he was deployed. It came on our home email. Funny, because this morning b/4 I checked the mail (before H went to work) we spoke about how great I felt it was that she hadn't bothered us. So, the email was just a forwarded message that she sent a bunch of other people but it still bothered me to see her name. Brought up all of the crappy feelings that went along with the "bad" times. I don't know if I will tell H about the mail or just delete it, any ideas? He had told me that she doesn't contact him at work, she just has the home email. Skank. That's all I can say about her. Skanky B#$%&. We hadn't gotten anything from her in MONTHS. She must be having trouble with her H again and fishing for men. Most of the people she sent it to were men. UGH. Let it go, let it go....
Another strange occurance. Someone from my past has been calling, all the time. I had dated someone b/4 H and I got together. This person and I ended up being great friends after our dating ended. Yes, we were intimate (a LONG time b/4 I met H). So, this person and I had stayed friends, in touch with Xmas cards, and a phone call maybe once a year. Last time I spoke with him was while H was deployed, almost a year ago. Anyway,
At Xmas I got a card from him saying thanks for pics. of kids (I always send pics of kids w/cards), and he gave me his new number and email address. Well, the card came during the time H and I were trying to work on our R and H said he "didn't care" if I stayed in touch. I didn't.
Got a phone call from this person about a month ago, I never called back. Spoke w/H about this (after H recommitted to R and was in love w/me again). H said he didn't feel comfortable with me keeping in touch since I had been intimate w/this person. I had no problem with that since I asked H not to keep in touch with EA, and girl from b/4 he met me (if you've followed my sitch, you know about that). So, A few days ago, H got hung up on, uh oh. He did *69 and the number came up as one we didn't know. We just blew it off. Then, he called again on the machine, I never called back. So, this morning after H and I were intimate, the phone rang, I thought it might be someone from H's unit since calls have been frequent since the war started. It was 6:25 am, and it was him. So, I kind of blew him off and he said he was going to call later.
First, I don't understand the frequency of the calls, and I also don't know how to tell him that I don't think it's a good idea we speak. Any ideas? I really don't want to hurt anyone, but I need to let this person know. HELP!
