Dave - I don't think you're being an idiot at all. I agree you're at the point where you probably don't have much choice on the separation. That's what happened with my H too - it was that or a D. I got him to go to MC (after begging/pleading, not so good..) - she was the one who talked him out of going straight for a D so the sep was actually better.

Absolutely DON'T share those articles with her. It's pressure, it's telling her she's wrong and you're right, it's more of trying to convince her to see things your way. The harder you push, the more she'll do to convince herself she's right.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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