C2H, First of all, I want to thank you for taking the time to drop my thread to give some insight.
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Know, for your own piece of mind, as this comes to a conclusion that you did everything you could to save the marriage. You obviously still care for him deeply and he is exhibiting remorse that this spun way out of control. So, is all hope lost? If there is a question about this then maybe there is more that you will want to do.
For the first time, I can confidently say that I did everything I could. I do still care for him deeply. He has been showing remorse for months...just no action. So to answer your question, yes all hope is lost. I have given him more chances than he ever deserved and he can not and will not man up.
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When you know you have done everything you can, and there are no kids, it is healthier to move on with your life (NOT into another relationship) as quickly as possible.
That is exactly where I stand. I have passed the point of no return. He is broken. He will not get away from OW and attempt to fix himself let alone our marriage. He does not have it in him. He is too proud of a man to take this step, so in return we will be divorced next Tuesday. At this point, I believe he shows remorse towards me only to appease his own conscience. He does not care how much pain he causes me. He continues to put OW first and I will not compete with her any longer. If she is great enough to have a 10 month long affair while he is still married to me, he can be with her. Don't get me wrong, I still love him, but honestly, he was never a very good husband. We didn't have a very healthy relationship...I was always putting in more. He had two affairs in during our 5 year marriage and after this one spun so out of control, I just cannot do this. Because of my vows, I was willing to try to make my marriage work, but he never gave me the chance. It really is his loss. I am a great person. I really did all I could, so for my own well-being, I am moving on to better things.
