WAW wife needs a home

[Dom R]

I am not following what you mean by that???

I meant, "she doesnt have to be ready to work on the relationship yet".

like mkultra said, 'sticking together for financial reasons', is still "sticking together", and there are many marriages who have recovered, just because of the final string like that, not being snapped.
If at least one person is willing to do more than just "live together".. if they are willing to truely try to make the marriage a better one... then the string, can become twine, which can become a strong rope of unity between them.

Any suggestions on how to approach her about moving back in together. I do not want her to feel like I am trying to take advantage of her situation. or that I am using it as a desperate attempt to save our R. I know she wants her independence, but unfortunately she can not afford it financially.

Well, the way to handle it is... dont be desparate

Dont make it about "recovering your marriage".
Dont make it "because you miss her sooo much".

Offer it, as you would to a friend who is "down on his luck".

"Hey buddy, i know you're between jobs right now... you're welcome to come stay with me until you get back on your feet" sorta thing.
Maybe a "you are welcome to stay with us until you find some place that you like better".

Maybe put in that she would pay rent of some amount, to show that it is more of a "business" type thing, than a marriage.

Unfortunately, i dont know enough about your history, to know about the reasons WHY you were separated in the first place. Yu'd have to think of ways to make clear that sort of negativity wouldnt happen if she chose to live with you again.
but you'd need to make it clear in a subtle, gentle sort of way.
The "controlled separation" book sounds like it could have some good ideas. but if you approach her using that level of "agreement"... that may sound too much like working on marital recovery. I'm guessing that you need to stay away from "recovery" stuff right now, as i've mentioned above.


On the negative side.... all the stuff about your wife claiming she "had to" have a divorce because of your son, sounds like total BULL****. but oh well. I hope that things work out well for you.