Dropping in on you to hear how things are going. Seems like wonderful progess, many ILYs and reconnecting. Good going, grrrlll!
Especially during the time your H was away.
I resonate with total understanding of what you went through -- the wanting to be reassured and comforted and told again and again "you da one."
It's only natural to need to be cuddled and protected after a major bomb/earthquake/tornado/tsunami -- you name it, that's what it feels like we've been through.
But -- sigh -- you cannot MAKE someone give you what you need. I am really experiencing this right now with my H. He's on the mend, we're on the mend and we are working out a lot of things -- but he pulls back whenever he thinks I'm pushy.
He won't even open the window on his side of the car in sweltering heat if I make it sound like a demand: "Hey, open your window!"
So I gotta remember to be polite.
Over on marriagebuilders.com they say a main LOVEBUSTER is making disrespectful demands, and I need to keep that in mind. Even if to me it didn't seem demanding, if it seemed that way to my H, it counts as a love bank withdrawal.
Grrrr. No fair, I sometimes growl -- he's been rude, irresponsible, harsh and hostile but I still gotta be a nice grrrllll!?????!!!!!!!?????!!!!
Well, yes, if that's what works.
DB-ing, I'm getting over being resentful, angry, bitter, insinuating, constantly disappointed, critical and impatient. Oh, and did I mention righteous?
Saint Bridget, they now call me... (LOL)
So I hear ya, and we both know we need to do what brings us more of what we want, and we're making great strides.
Saint Teach, they now call ya...
Very good responses to your posts, too -- I need to hear these things, yes I do.
