Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

Sue one thing that will help and I know, I know it is the toughest of them all. Is no more snooping! It does you know good, and by snooping it makes you second guess everything. It is hard at first, but then after awhile you realize you feel so much better because you do not get caught in the roller coaster that knowing causes.

LeftInCali-

Thanks for the reminder!! You made me smile because I felt like you were giving me a kind scolding. I know, I know. Each time I do look at his phone, it just hurts even more! I ask myself what my demeanor would be like if I hadn't even seen the first call or looked at the phone bill. I guess that initial snooping helped me to know what was really going on though. I made myself stop looking at the phone bill because I found myself in a flood of tears at my desk at work one day. Not good when I have an open cube and sit directly outside both of my bosses' offices. Although they are wonderful guys and have told me that I can come to them with anything. OH YEAH......let's add to the sting of my H's A. One of my bosses........who I absolutely adored (professionally only) is having an A also. This I know because I do a huge amount of work in his calender & email for him. I saw (by accident)...messages to/from another co-worker. I love his wife to death and want to slap him.....saying.....this is for your wife & for the daily reminder of my own situation!!

So, I called H a few minutes ago. He was on lunch. I was friendly as could be. He was quiet. Just asked if he could get off early tomorrow so we could get to the wedding on time. Asked if he'd been busy....etc. Then, I asked if he was planning on golfing on Sunday. He loves it and had told a friend that they'd try to golf this weekend. His response was......I wasn't planning on it....why?.....are you trying to get rid of me? My response: Of course not......I just saw an ad for a festival near us and thought it would be something for us to do this weekend....if not all of us, then me and our little D. I kind of left it at that. He had to get back to work & I said.....okay then....I'll see you later!! SMILE, SMILE SMILE!!

Bob-----Thanks so much for the thread. I will definately take a look.

SueS