Chickie is right, sometimes they do need to move out to have the distance to see things more clearly and try to figure it out. By being in the same house, wanting out and wanting OP, there's the blame, resentment towards you from keeping them away from what they want, and a huge amount of tension... Sometimese WAS can harbor a lot of anger and blame, I think it's good when they can leave on their own because it's one less thing they can blame you for. So, Cali, you did great. You supported his decision and that's the best you can do....
Thanks ROOT. I know that you guys are right, but I sometimes feel like if I would have known about DB'ing a year ago, when it was just an EA and H was willing to work on the marriage, I could have avoided all this. Now he is determined that we will NEVER be together again. He constantly reminds me when we talk, that we will never be together, that he will never love me again, and that this is for the best. Just wants to make sure that I know that he has moved on, to keep me in my place, I suppose?
Originally Posted By: runningoutoftime
In the meantime there was one or two weeks where he was still at home, and the tension level was insane.
Yes that is how it got here, I just couldn't handle the stress and tension, and dealing with someone who obviously wanted to be out and had SOOO much anger and resentment against me.
