You remind me of my friend in the above statement. She is going through a D right now and she was clearly mothering her H from day one. She admits it and states her next R is going to have a totally different dynamic. It has to. She is prone to "mother" people and she knows she needs to change that about herself. Seems to be the case in your own life as well.
It's not a bad thing to have a cow aspect to your nature as long as you have it in balance with the other aspects of your personality. I don't think that I would be able to form a mature relationship with a man if I didn't have some cow because the lioness is mature but not big on relationships and the bunny likes relationships but isn't too mature. The monkey, of course, is immature and not very relationship oriented but she is a lot of fun and quite good in bed. What the cow should want in a relationship is a man who is strong enough to show some vulnerability, not a boy who needs a mother. For example, a man who isn't afraid to show that he is touched that you baked him a cake for his birthday, not the guy who whines that you didn't make dinner the way he likes it.
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Interesting list.
I got most of it from "Be Honest- You're Not That Into Him Either." which is a book written in response to "He's Just Not That Into You" with the refreshing take that women do have intelligent choices they can make about their own behavior and preferences and don't necessarily benefit from a dating methodology that consists of simply rejecting frogs until Prince Oh-So-Into-You shows up - lol .
It really made me start thinking that one way to define "differentiation" might be "ability to control chemical levels in brain through self-aware behavior" . For instance, you really don't have to be "in love" with anybody if it isn't in your best interest. You can consciously control your dopamine/oxytocin addiction tendencies by altering your behavior.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
