Jill, I'd stay here, Newcomers is so busy that a new thread ends up on page 5 the day it was entered! Plus I think it's more for the poor souls in the beginning of their own terrible turmoil and you and I are here now, right???!!!! Have you read Willard F Harley Jr.s book called "Love Busters"? It's every bit as good as the 5 love languages that gets mentioned so much here and you won't have to figure out your H's 'anything'. Take care, Lsia
