Pushing for Dissolution

[Dom R]

She told me two nights ago that she doesn't want a divorce but she doesn't see an alternative as she believes we'll never change.

I think this is the biggest thing in play.

i'm not a counsellor. I've just been on the "separated" train for a long time, and done a lot of reading (and taken some MC, too)

big things:

1. she "doesnt want" it.

2. doesnt "see" anything changing


Hmm.. i was going to say something else, but i think a bigger issue needs to be tackled first.

Why do you think this time is any different, for YOU?

There's a difference between "trying to make things better, but not knowing/being able to",
and making SPECIFIC PROMISES to make SPECIFIC CHANGES, and then welching out on doing them.

If you made specific promises, and then broke them... then you are a man of no character. Odds are, you will do exactly the same thing again. make promises.. maybe keep them for 6 months... and then stop them once you dont feel pressured anymore.

Are you claiming you have suddenly acquired morals/character, and if so, how and why?



Obviously, you have majorly screwed up and broken her trust by breaking them.