dlt1, I know that fear, all too well, I've been M'ed for now 14 yrs. I am 35 yrs old. that is almost half my life. and venturing out into the dating scene is one the things I have dreaded. As you know I have been there once, when this whole thing started, and I was scared then, but once I met someone, and well you know, I did feel more confident. but those feelings were there one day, gone the next, and it was because I was not ready.
This is why I have so much faith in a R, with my W, she is trying too hard to move on, and forget me. But the truth is the current idiot is only the first guy that she met, after our initial separation, and now with a baby on the way, and not knowing who's it is, she feels trapped. She knows that I will not move back in with her, that I am on this journey of finding my way in life. so since she knows that, she is opting to stay with someone who is using her, just to have someone physically there. The signs are there, she is the only one who won't admit she sees it.
My mom has said it since day one, she is waiting for me, to get my life together, 1. find a job (check, done in a big way, Yaaaa! dream job!) 2. Work on my issues (doing that now in C,) 3. Get out of debt and pay my bills (will be doing that shortly once I start working) 4. Get a house of my own, and take care of it, by myself (On the horizon, in the near future, but for now, she knows that I am learning how to do, and am doing more around the house, here. then I did there)
So you see, I, like you, know my W, I've known her almost half my life, And thanks to this site, I know the reason she did all of this, and I know that she will be back for some form of a R, it's just a matter of time. Take care.
