Pushing for Dissolution

[NikB]

Agree with ponygirl - you do have some hope, but be prepared that it's going to take a LOT of time, patience, and work on your part. Also agree to check and see what you can do in regards to stalling the paperwork.

Then read DR, work on your goals, your changes. I like the idea of Retrouvaille if she's willing. But then definitely back off - way off - and leave her alone. No other R talks, begging, pleading, etc.

Be prepared on your trip to be cool, confident, strong - breaking down crying, pleading, etc. is not going to help your case at all. Be prepared for all possible outcomes, even flat out rejection, finding out there's an OM (other man)... anything. I know it's painful but the more you prepare for the worst and hope for the best, the better you'll handle things when you visit.