Hi Mattie, Glad you are back...I think we could all move to survivng. I have listened to a lot of Self help CD's. There was one clinic on setting goals and moving a head but it was expense but I think it would have really made a difference for me. But I decided I couldn't afford it right now. But I am trying to set some small goals like you. Get things going for me. I am always here for you. I think we have all let our H control us one way or another. I to am feeling better about moving ahead. You have a great day and stay strong....(((hugs))))