Frustrated and More Saddened #3

[waw1978]

Well she slept at her friends' house last night. Did not hear from her until 5:00 am this morning when she texted me saying that she was going to sleep and goodnight. Why is she acting like a spoiled teenager? Honestly, she is 28 years old and married. Why is she bar hopping and staying out until 5:00 in the morning? I just don't understand.

I can tell you why she is bar hopping and staying out till all hours...you have been together since she was 18. She probably didn't get a chance to do any of this while she was younger and now is acting out trying to regain her youth. Maybe I am wrong and she had many exp's before you met her.

I think you have mentioned that this was both of your first serious relationship? For some reason it seems that men and women both have these mini-MLC's because they feel like they missed out on something when the marry the first person they have a serious relationship with. Not that there aren't plenty of others that are content and happy with that choice forever...but when a person gets depressed and things aren't going well with the spouse or marriage isn't what they thought it woudl be they might get that "woulda coulda shoulda" thing going and then it just takes on a life of its own.

None of these reasons excuses her behavior but she probably feels like she missed out on something (whether thats fact or fiction). In addition to depression she is probably exp. a litte about to turn 30 panic.

Just giving you some insight. I have plenty of friends who married the first guy they shagged, never new the joys of going to nightclubs and dancing the night away. Most of them hit some point where they had to see what that was all about.

Focus on yourself right now. If you need a break from it all, then you take one. Get away for a few days and clear your head.