Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

Well, I finally reached some kind of tipping point.

Until now I've been going through the motions of DBing and doing 180's, but I was still miserable.

In my mind I still thought I couldn't have a good life without my wife, and I was constantly thinking about her.

All these thoughts and my misery kept me from really fully implementing DBing and my 180's.

I was blaming myself completely for the failure of our marriage, when in fact both of us had something to do with it.

I don't what finally made it click in my head, but I've finally have truly detached from my wife. I think writing and reading on this forum, especially the articles about detahcment helped. But in the end I got tired of losing my diginity and being treated with no respect by my wife.

I feel like I no longer need her to be happy. If she ever decides that she wants to come back it will probably actually be difficult for me to accept because of the things she has done to me and the way she has treated me.

I'm not saying I'm giving up on our marriage, because I still think it is worth salvaging, but I'm never going to jump back into it without being 100% sure that it is what we both want and that it will be so much better then before.

Svejk