Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

Good morning everyone-

Rollercoaster night & morning. H called last night from work and actually talked quite a bit and was in a fairly good mood. He doesn't usually get home from work until about 9:30-9:45. I was sitting on the deck when he got home. He just snapped at me asking why I was sitting there. Not usually my spot to sit. I just said.....it's actually a nice night out and I'm not tired. H just got changed and went to work out. I tried to strike up a small conversation with him & he just snapped at me.

This morning our little D was up very early. I had done my morning ritual of looking at H's phone & saw 3 calls (2 from her, 1 to her). One of the calls was right before he got home...when he was so grouchy. The one call that made me the most angry & I'm not sure exactly why, was the one from her to him at 1:00 am. That one just got to me. Maybe because I knew he was probably home when he got that call. I got that "How Dare She" attitude. That made me so mad I literally wanted to punch something. Then I heard H and our D talking in the bedroom. He knows that one of the things I love about him is how he is with our D. They were reading a book. Our D said...mommy, earlier when you were talking to me, were you crying. I smiled and said.....no honey, I had gotten something in my eye when I put on my makeup. H just looked at me. He kept watching me while I got ready. Oh yeah, I think he may have noticed that I did my nails.....I never do them.

So, when I got ready to leave, I asked H to make lunches for him and D. I'd made them all week. He jokingly gave me hard time for not doing it. I told him I'd see him later and bent over to kiss him......as I always do. He turned his head. I said....Okay, see you later and moved away. He grunted a little and when I looked back, he had his lips pursed for a kiss. I gave him one. While I kissed him, he did this silly little thing that he knows is annoying to me, but makes me laugh. I told him I'd see him later & left.

So, bad attitude, good attitude. What the heck is the deal? It was almost like he was happier with me because he'd talked to her.

Any thoughts???

SueS