Until last week I thought me and WAW's S was due to me "pushing" her out the door by saying the D word during an argument. Well, I just got out shared cellphone bill and noticed this new mysterious number on her call list that looked somehow familiar. Started rummaging through my list of numbers and it turns out the calls are to a guy who I have known for about 15 yrs, and who also has been after my W's panties for at least a year or so. Think he forgot that he gave me his number last year after hitting on my W while I was in the bathroom at a local tavern! The calls grow daily in frequency starting about a week after she first left, including calls to and from him before and after both of our last couple of talks where she tried to give my W ring back to me. I also know she has not been staying where she says she has, and all evidence is pointing to at least a PA with this loser. This guy is a real piece of (S$%t) work...no steady job, dirty, dumb, lying, and even has hit regularly on his best friend's W (my W's sister!). At this point W is not aware of my knowledge of the A. I am disgusted, confused and feel totally powerless. I know if I say something, she will just run to him more, but she has already had paperwork drawn up last week. Part of me wants to throw in the towel and the other part of me knows that eventually she will get bored with this guy and realize what she has with me. He actually is kind of stinky and has been referred to by others as "the furry teeth guy"! Meanwhile, I have GAL in neighboring town-new apt., making new friends, joining yoga classes, getting therapy and remaining faithful while she is digging more holes. W has become intensely vindictive in our few interactions via email (guilt?), and I'm doing everything in my power NOT to engage with her, though blasting some smart comment about her A sounds sooooo tempting. Hel!, we haven't even celebrated our one-year anniversary!
