Diss, please please, stop talking about the R. Do you think the OM is talking R talk with her. No, he's sitting there telling her to do what she needs to do and he will be there when she makes up her mind. He is validating her and listening. For god's sake stop talking and let her work out her stuff. Only talk when she initiates, only touch when she initiates, and only validate when she speaks.
I know it's hard my friend, but you must control yourself if you dont want to lose her. Ian
Sofar, I've been given this advice so many times on my thread, but it has not been an easy pill to swallow. Tried to pull back and give her space. Thought I was doing the right things. I know everyone on here has gone through the same situations. Its eerie how other's stories are so close to mine. Guess it just takes a while for the advice to get through our thick skulls.
Don't know if its too late at this point, but yes, my talking is done. We were on vacation this week in North Carolina which is about 9 hrs from NJ. W drove back this morning. Kids and I will go back with my S. I don't want to say its over at this point, but I told her I think she needs to leave the house. She said she won't go without the kids. Not sure where she'll go or if she'll leave at all. Should turn out to be an interesting weekend.
