I had to do it for my own sanity. My H was cake eating way too much and flaunting his "outings" in my face. He would take off the every weekend. No calls and would just stay at her place.He would no longer do anything w/ us as a family. Sometimes that is what you have to do so they can live the reality day to day and see if the grass is really greener. I told him you love her so much(he never said so) then go live w/ her. As long as he was at hoime. He was getting all of his needs met by BOTH of us women in his life. It took me alot of pushing for him to leave though. I think he really only intended it to be a fling. He had even said it was not going to be permanet thing.
Twomonths after he left he tried coming back (complaingin about her and how he could not stand her D, etc., but I knew or I was too detached or maybe just starting to move on and I told him he was not ready tomove back in yet. To this day he say he is not "fully in love w/ her"?? Another lie? WHy else break up a family w/ three tiny ones ifor someone your not in love with?
My H is just running from responsibilities. Calims he si drowning in bills,we argue too much (which I have done majhor 180's on BTW).
The girls the other night told H they wanted him back and he asked them to list the reasons why (maybe he thought I put them up to it, NOT)! D10 said the reasons,but the last one I am sure got to his heart- because I wantt be a REAL family again! WOW! That got to me and I am sure it pulled at his heart (if theres any left). I told my D10 wow he willprolly think I told u to say that, that was really good,very intelligent of you!! She said he just took a double look ather and told them before hemoves back he needs them to keep their rooms clean, mommy and him to not argue so much & mommy to start to cook healthier(hes on ahealth kick now). Get this- he told them when he does there will no longer be the OW and if they were ok w/ that? HELLO?? IS she there new mommy? Why should they care?
