I'm about to cash out for the night, but if you ever want to drop me a line: duhonius@gmail.com.
Don't give up hope. If you confront her and she says she's willing to work on the R, great. Obviously, just be ready for the negative answer.
Some of this is in my first post. I knew something wasn't right between my W and I. She volunteered the fact that she was having an A. I confronted her that morning, said you've got to pick. I'm willing to work at it, but I can't do it if you can't decide. Was training for the Marine Corps Marathon and had a long run (18 miles) that Sunday morning. Made it about 1 before turning around. Was on the verge of tears and nauseaus the whole time. Had found some websites after we spoke (4 in the mornnig, marriage buildings was one of them). Told her to read them when I got back from my aborted run and went to sleep. She woke me up about two hours later, crying, saying that the articles described exactly how she was feeling. Two days later, she decided to fly down to Louisiana for a few days to decide if she really wanted to try. She came back with a yes. My mistake was focusing on her faults and not mine. So, IF you want to try and IF she says yes. Be prepared for her to be on an emotional rollercoaster as she mourns the end of the A. On the flip side, you've got a head start by already being here. if I had found this site (no idea how the hell I missed it) back then, I honestly believe I'd be happily married right now.
Live and learn.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
