I think you guys are both right. If I handle it properly this could work out for the better. But, I have to be able to reach an agreement with her about setting some goals and guidelines for us. I want it to be a positive move for both of us, not a return to the old ways.
I don't see any way to avoid it from happening to be honest with you. We went to the gym with her and then out to eat tonight. At dinner, she asked me if I could help her move out next Tuesday. I told her I would be more than happy to. I asked her where she was going, if she did not mind me asking. She said to (friend’s house) but she does not need to take her bed and needs me to put it into storage with my items, if that is ok. I said that is fine. So, (friend) has a bed for you to sleep in. She said no I will have to sleep with her. She only has a two bedroom apartment and her mom sleeps in the other room. She said I do not know how I am going to have S over on the weekends (when she has visitations). She said that she hopes it will only be for a few weeks. Hopefully by then she will get a government subsidized apt. I told her that I am not trying to be rude or crush her thoughts about the subsidized apt., but that I had talked to my SIL about it and she said my wife will not qualify for it, because she is not the primary care giver of our son and that is a requirement. She said great, now I have nowhere to go. I cannot afford a place on my own and that was my only hope, now I am screwed. I said yes you are in a difficult situation. And we left it at that. I could tell she was very upset. I am sure she feels trapped now and her only option may be to ask me if she can move in. I really don't want us to get back together under the same roof only because she has no other option in her mind. But, if I can do what you two suggested above maybe it does not have to be as bad as I think it might.
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