I read the posts on the board and can help but feel really negative about my situation. The more I read about others situations I fell like mine is on the verge of really getting worse.
The weekend wasn’t the greatest. To sum it up it was like being on a date with someone that did not want to be with you. We did have fun with the neighbors at the cottage but you can feel the tension.
So Monday rolls around I had a long talk with C on the phone. While I feel that my wife is not making an effort. Told her that I really believe my wife is in a mid-life crisis. She disagreed and felt that she doesn’t know where she is in the relationship. We spoke for close to an hour. C felt that it may be a good idea to meet separately Thursday rather than together. I told her to stay the course and we can decide which direction to go after. I was felling that this was very one sided and that is why I called.
I agreed to get her a car. So I detailed her van for like 6 hours – sweating my arse off – good thing as I continue to loose weight. On Tuesday I tell her that will meet her at the house at 2:00. On the way I start getting that feeling as to why the hell should I buy her anything. One friend advised to just do it and stay optimistic. An attorney friend said get her a cheaper car. Anyway – got home and we had a long talk. I told her how I felt about it, and I told her to view it my way – why should I buy W a car when I have one foot out the door. I told her that I was sick and tired of her grumpy faces and her attitude towards me. She actually apologized and said she will stop it. While she works part time she spends all her money on clothes. I told her that she needed some financial responsibility. We agreed to go forward with the car purchase but, my transfers to her account will be cut by a good portion for the payment. The car is in her name and so is the lease. She was really happy and after she got back from her fund raiser meeting she actually said thank you. I still get the customary kiss goodnight – I make the move.
So today she is at her company’s picnic. Calls me to see if the kids are home and tells me that they are going to a bar afterward and then she needs to stop at her mom’s to check on the house, while they are on vacation. I said I would se her tomorrow as it seemed like it would be another late night for party girl. She was somewhat upset by my comment – oh well truth hurts. I need to get out of the house. I have been busting my ass around here – and I am pretty tired of it.
Well – will see how the joint C session goes tomorrow. I know her homework was to make a list of what is broke in our marriage. I can’t wait to hear it. Mine is communication – easy – there is none unless she wants or needs something.
