The other day H made plans with d7 to stay over night at MIL's house with him and Ow! ( H is house sitting for her)
He never talked to me about it. Just went ahead and asked d if she wanted to sleepover. We never agreed to overnighter's during the weekdays. So he has no legal right to keep her if I say no.
D meantioned it to me yesterday so I called H. I got his VM so I left him a message.
I told him that he needed to discuss things with me first before he makes any plans with our d. I also told him that b/c we still aren't D yet and he knows that I don't agree with him about d sleeping over with him and his GF. I have been over it with him before. I want us to bring our d up knowing the difference between right and wrong.
D does want to sleepover with him , so I tried to explain to her why she couldn't sleep over. I told her that her daddy and I were still married and that I didn't think it was right that she stay over with her dad and his GF until we are divorced. Of course she doesn't understand.
I get no support from H as he called me back and said that the divorce will final soon enough so "what difference does it make at this point?" He said that "I don't have to agree with the way he lives his life and that he would never put our d in any danger or in a situation that would hurt her. He told me that "he has no say in who I choose to be with and he can be with whomever he chooses to be with as well."
I told H he was missing the whole point. It wasn't about putting our child in danger, but it was about setting a good example for her.
He just doesn't get it! Is he really that selfish? I have lost complete respect for him. He has been living his life for 2 1/2 years as if he is a "single man" who is already divorced. He has been seeing Ow , living with Ow, lying about everything, and bringing our kids around this Ow during this time. He isn't thinking about how his actions and how he treats others is teaching his child the to be a good person.
I am sick of his crap... I really don't respect him anymore. He has changed so much.
