When he refused to hug you after your dad died, was that because of lack of differentiation?
Yup. Pretty much completely. Of course there were components of his fusion to his FOO in play as well as his fusion with me.
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Do you really think the only way that he was an unsatisfactory partner was his level of differentiation?
No. It's possible that we would be utterly incompatible even if we were both equally super-differentiated. I should have said that I would be willing to consider the possibility of reconciling. What I meant by "naturally" is that if we were equally differentiated there would be little difficulty in making the attempt. It might fail but it wouldn't be damaging or difficult.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
