But that isn't really ever the issue with an avoider is it?
What is an avoider? How do you define it?
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Those complaints are just a deflection. Sure, there may be some validity to them, but once resolved, the avoider simply finds something else that is a problem.
If there was some validity to them, then how are they deflections? Can you give me an example of the type of interaction you're talking about? Is it something like this:
Spouse A - We need to address blah issue. Spouse B - Well, blah occurs because you _____.
Would that constitute what you're calling a deflection?
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In my wife's case, she sometimes reverts to digging up the past because she has little to complain about in the present.
When she digs up the past does what she is unearthing have any corelation to the discussion/argument at hand?
