I'm gonna try hard not to sound sarcastic...really hard!
Soooo, are you someone who is HD and living with a LD spouse? Are you just an expert who dropped in to tell us all how to cure our sexual incompatibilities?
Your non-solution sounds so simple and so logical..good lord, why didn't I think of that sooner??? Tonight at dinner I'm just gonna tell my husband that he needs to suck it up and start performing 15 times a month. (I'd like it every night, he wants it only once a month, so the compromise is 15, right?) Yup yup, that'll do the trick! Thank you for letting me in on the secret.
Now let's get real. All things being equal in a healthy, loving marriage, it STILL isn't logical to just demand that the LD spouse start giving it up according to the "compromise" schedule.
I can dadgum-guarantee-ya that it would lead to lousy sex at best and good old fashioned anger, frustration and damage to a formerly healthy marriage.
How's about we start with some honest communication first and work things out from there? Yes, I've acknowledged that, in my marriage at least, I will NEVER ML as often as I'd like to. I will never come even close to ML on a regular basis.
I still love my marriage, love my relationship with my husband and am willing to work on whatever issues are causing his lack of interest in sex....Snakes, I just plain don't believe that he really doesn't think about sex much, or that he isn't interested.
I'm willing to take the chance that with time and effort, we can find the spark that leads to more regular intercourse without either of us having to "suck it up" and "just do the deed". ICK!!!! I do NOT want a lover who does it just because it's wednesday and it's on the schedule.
SB
PS I've been on the other end of this thing as the LD spouse in my first marriage so yes, I know whereof I speak when I tell you that insisting that the LD spouse compromise and "just do it" will NOT lead to harmony in a marriage. I caved in and just did it...and then I divorced him.
