No, not with an avoider. Has your goodwill improved your bf's relationship with you? Goodwill can help and is part of the answer, but I think a lot more than that is needed to fix things.
What difference does it make what's in your head or hers as long as you treat each other lovingly?
Nothing, but it is still that last part that is lacking, so then I start to question what's in her head (well, actually I don't do this because I'm not likely to find anything at all).
