I agree with Heim. Although it is good to not have expectations, don't let your H's genuine (we think) interest in taking the steps to improve your M go to waste. I would give almost anything to hear what your H said to you from my W.
Stew
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07